Yes, I don't like the Heyers with masterful male love interests, either! There are some which don't have them--Cotillion is great fun, for example. I usually go by people's reviews to warn me off the ones I probably won't like. But fair enough declaring you won't read any more Heyers, since het romances are not your main interest anyway!

Broster unfortunately makes a brief descent into "masterful male love interest telling the heroine they'll get married without asking" in The Sea Without a Haven, too. : (

Aurora Leigh by Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Aurora Floyd by Mary Elizabeth Braddon
Ha, these are amazingly similar!