I agree with what you said about rejecting homophobia while not rejecting the symbols of religion/spirituality. For a lot of people, that goes together, because a lot of churches/etc are grossly intolerant and hypocritical, so it makes sense to do with the whole thing altogether--why stay in a place that rejects you? But it's nice to have other options, so it's lovely and important to see queer-friendly religious spaces (like that one you mentioned Sylvester attended, that sounds lovely and really moving!)--and may there be more and more as time goes by! <3

And I was totally thinking of the identity thing in "White cockades"... although that one is really evident, haha--possibly the lamest yet most adorable secret identity ever! XD (His other boys' adventure story has a similar dynamic too, with people not quite being who they say they are, and a super OTT happy vibe....he sure knew what he liked, and I applaud him for it!)